Monday, February 11, 2008

Closure? UPDATED!

The other night I was with my sister tooling around Facebook, trying to find my "first love's" profile.

"Why don't you just become friends with him?" she asked.

Such a simple question deserves a simple answer, but sadly, I had none.

I was talking about it the next day with someone, and it suddenly dawned on me why I couldn't bring myself to be Facebook friends with someone that I hadn't seen or talked to in a really, really long time.

We are so immersed in the idea of the "right" amount of time that we need to allow after a break up in order to contact a person. It's always a gamble--is two weeks enough? 3 months? a year?

I seriously hadn't thought that 19 years was enough time to give a person to get over it. 19 years.

I emailed him immediately.

And he replied!

UPDATE: So, ReMax broker just sent me a REAL email, on my gmail. As opposed to the wimpy little "nice to hear from you" on Facebook. I opened up my mail and I'm like "who the hell is this?" It was him. It was nice. He's happy, and I'm happy for him. But wow, it makes me realize how much people change, and how I really, somehow, have not.


The UnaDater said...

Wowwww... You know I have heard that you can be in love with more than one person even though I don't want to believe that. But I guess I will always love my last love no matter how wrong she was for me.

Susan at One-Woman Show said...

All those "rules" are a bunch of bull -- do what feels right for you. And let us know how the emails go!

roopa said...

Oooooh, what did CO the ReMax realtor write back to you???????

i like cheese said...

Unadater-I don't believe you can be in love with one than more person at a time, but I do believe one can have many many loves over time. And one can certainly have residual feelings for someone, based on past experience and chemistry. Oh I could go on and on about this forever. Maybe I'll just write a blog about it ;)

Susan-Of course the rules are bull, it's just another way to torture ourselves ;)

Roopa-He said it was really good to hear from me, and that he hoped my life is good. Nothing about still being in love with me after 19 years or anything...but we're working on that ;)

5 of 9er said...

I've never been on facebook. But I think I have changed.